How to Deal With Conflict in Relationships

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Conflict is going to happen in your love life. Here are some ways to keep it from damaging your relationship.

1. Conflict is going to happen in any relationship. There are healthy ways to deal with conflict and unhealthy ways.
2. If you deal with conflict in the following ways, you can kill your relationship. Trying to dominate your partner by shouting or screaming at them is common but a big danger sign. Mocking your partner or insulting them during conflict is another way to cause lasting relationship damage.
3. There are a few things you can do that are healthy when conflict arises. One of the first things you can do is take a breath. Breathe. This will help you to notice that we all often revert to the emotional age of 7-year-olds during conflict.
4. Notice that conflict often causes negative behavior. Adults acting like kids during conflict will yell, break things, cry, run away, and hurl insults. But you don't have to take it personally. The bad behavior is only for a few minutes, usually. See if you can begin to not take it too personal.
5. One powerful thing you can do is to keep the argument from getting too heated. Disarm and de-escalate it. You might say that you need some time to get yourself under control, then leave the room for a few minutes. When you come back, you will both be likely to talk in a more civil manner.
6. Also, once you've finished the immediate argument, don't withhold your affection. Don't refuse to touch or caress your partner for days just because they fought with you. This can end up killing your relationship.
7. Next, try to reconnect with your mate after the argument. Don't wait days to talk civilly to them again. Once things have cooled down, even if you don't think it was your fault, reconnect. Say "sorry we fought, are you okay?" Do not let the anger between you linger.
   

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How To Know When A Man Flirts?

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You know that a guy is hanging around you, but are not able to figure out whether he is really interested in you or just flirting. As a matter of fact, it is quite easy to determine if a guy is flirting with you. There are certain techniques that majority of men apply, when flirting, which helps their female counterpart know what is running through their mind. However, there are still women on earth, who do not understand that a man is flirting with them, even after they see clear signals. If this is the case with you, then this article is just what you need. Go through the following lines and know how to tell if a guy is flirting with you.

How To Know He Is Flirting With You

• If a guy is flirting, he will try to maintain eye contact with you, much longer than usual. He will probably try to stare at you and study you from head to toe, every time he encounters you.
• Small touches, such as a soft pat on your shoulder or arms, are indications that a guy is flirting with you. While sharing a joke, he would try to lean towards you and brush through your hair.
• When a man is flirting, his attention remains focused on his female counterpart. He would ignore everyone else in the place. The guy will lock his eyes on you, as if you are the only person around him.
• The guy would love to pay you compliments, when he is flirting with you. He would often say "you look gorgeous in this attire", even if he doesn’t really mean it.
• One of the best ways to know, whether a guy is flirting with you or not, is to monitor his body language. While talking, he would try to get near you or even lean towards you.
• The guy would try to impress you in order to gain your attention and affection. He would attempt to impress you in different ways. He may get well dressed and wear an enticing fragrance. If it is not through the looks, he would try to impress you with his sweet talk.
• The guy will show that he is the best listener on earth. He would listen to you very intently, to show that he is interested in you. In the process, he would even try to learn things about you.
• Teasing is an old method adopted by guys, when they flirt with girls. Since his motive is to seek your attention, he would not restrict himself to a regular conversation. Instead, he would try to tease you, so that you hold on to the talk and react.
• A straightforward method applied by guys is to flirt with words. He would say that you are beautiful and that he would like to spend some time with you.

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How To Know When A Woman Flirts?

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Women are great at using their body language to convey an interest in you. When a woman flirts with you, it may not be immediately evident some flirt overtly while some flirt in a subtle manner.

When a woman flirts with you overtly these are the tell tale signals

• She leans very close to you. Usually so that you can smell her scent.
• She talks in a husky tone.
• She look at your with deep eyes. You can feel them taking you in.
• She makes provocative gestures, like priming her hair while looking at you.
• She touches your skin on some pretext
• She gives you an unabashed stare

These signals are so overt that you can feel her heat in your body. Don't shy away when a woman flirts with you overtly, just enjoy it. Most of the time its just purposeless, it does not mean that she wants to get intimate with you but your reaction and body language can increase her interest in you. Make the best of it.

What about subtle signs of flirting? These are more difficult to judge and its best not to jump to any conclusions. Here are usual signs of subtle flirting.

• She makes eye contact with you and keep it going for a while
• When she breaks the eye contact she looks down as if she is shy of you
• She starts talking to her friend when ever you are around, to draw your attention
• She seems fidgety in your presence and does something clumsy like dropping her pen or something
• She adjusts her hair and skirt when she knows you are looking at her
• Some women would require some encouragement from your side before she overtly flirts with you. Judging her subtle flirting would help you time your approach.

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puisi dalam selimut : 2:05 am [23/7/10]

Inception and Fullhouse

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impian merealisasikan suatu meeting mewah menjadi kenyataan tetapi sedikit kelainan dari segi mereka yang terlibat dan aktiviti-aktiviti yang dicadangkan. sepatutnye hari tersebut merupakan meeting the gorgeous yang melibatkan encik psychopath, enykikilala, syidashukor, eykameow dan hanalovenest. tapi 2 org ahli ponteng. ni yang nak marah ni. next time jumpe mmg aku babab babab dorang. so mereka yg terlibat adalah 4 org dekat gambar atas ni.

program sepatotnye main ice skating iaitu motif utama then ade la sampingan2 mcm lunch dekat Fullhouse sbb ade org nak merase makan mende tu then ade karaoke la ape la cite gebang punye gebang last-last tgk wayang je. last minute plan is better then a month plan. jadi go on jela dgn wayang crite Inception. ok la not bad da la panjang gile. panas bontot kot. time kua wayang da around 5 so nak taknak lepas mamam trus shoot balik.

Fullhouse Restaurant : Lifestyle Store and Cafe

around 5-6 n aku tataw nak panggil ni lunch or dinner. sepatutnye lunch tp mcm dinner pun ade. makanan dekat sini boleh tahan sedap dan decoration mmg style gile babipunyestalker. dalam restaurant ade butik kt sebelah blakang dan kt tepi-tepi tu ade jual mcm stuff comel such as patung, jam, telefon rumah and ect. so sambil berkunjung makan boleh la cuci-cuci mate. gambar di bawah menceritakan segala kesedapan dan keindahan lokasi tersebut.

sekian. papai :)

demi cintaku padamu

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haha. kelakar tak aku ade buat blog no 2 ? inilah blog yang tercipta hasil rungutan-rungutan anda semua. nampak tak suara readers mampu mengubah mase depan blog. sama dgn suara rakyat mampu mengubah kerajaan. lepas ni , blog babipunyestalker ni da takkan mengeluarkan entry-entry berunsur bola dan chelsea. sedih bagi aku sbb luahan tentang chelsea tak kedengaran dan hasrat anti-bola kesampaian. jadi aku buad satu platform baru dimana segalanye tentang bola sepak akan terupdate disitu. tapi bagus jugak sebenarnye sbb aku tak mencampuradukkan dunia bola aku dgn dunia realiti dan sgt menepati kelas-kelas blog itu tersendiri.

tapi berkemungkinan besar aku akan lebih berada di blog chelsea itu berbanding blog ini. sbb ? idea penulisan aku tak terbatas bila tentang bola sepak sbb satu dunia mampu menerima mende ni sbb ia adalah isu semasa, sejarah dan fakta. lain pulak ceritenye dgn hal-hal peribadi di dlm blog ni. setiap ape yang nak ditulis , pasti akan buad aku pk dua tiga kali sbb mesti si A terasa. dan si B pulak perasan. dan si C pun nak jugak. dah tu kreativiti aku terbatas la gara-gara semua ni. dats y aku tak update often. padahal 24 jam je aku on9 sambil2 buad kerja dgn lappy.

dan satu lagi aku mmg berniat nak jadi pengulas sukan berikutan gagal dalam dunia bolasepak . cita-cita aku mmg dari tadika nak jadi pengulas sukan tp apekan daya hasrat tak kesampaian sbb bapak aku suruh jadi engineer dlm kejuruteraan awam. sedih tak bila mase depan ditangan bapak? jangan sampai jodoh pun di tangan dorang sudah. mmg aku lari rumah awal-awal then kawen dekat siam senyap-senyap dgn org tranu. (apesal org terengganu pulak? =.="). jangan korang bgtaw bapak aku yang aku punyai hati kecil dalam dunia pengulas sukan sudah kang kecik hati dye sia-sia je bayar yuran pengajian aku dekat politeknik.

ok fine. perenggan diatas ni tipu belaka. jangan wujud rasa simpati taw. baiklah sampai disini saje entry utk kali ni. nak sambung balik edit-edit blog. eh jangan lupe follow taw. utk peminat chelsea jela. jgn pulak ko Manchester United then follow blog Chelsea. mmg tak kena la then bila bace terbakar plak. ok tata :)

projek baik punye

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sebelum ni aku ade cakap pasal aku nk buad review pasal worldcup. belum sempat aku terdetik nak buad , awal-awal da kene kecam. asek-asek bola. masuk blog ni bola. kalau aku maen snooker ke pingpong ke gasing ke , mesti aku akan crite pasal sport tu punye. da mmg aku dilahirkan sbg pengkritik bola. nak buad mcmana. sila salahkan bapak aku, ok fine mmg aku da tanak buad pasal bola da. so aku tarik balik kate-kate aku dlm entry lepas. lagipun , bukan ade org yg ternanti-nanti pun. haha perasankan aku ?

di pagi yg mulia ni sblm tido , aku nak share skit tentang mereka mereka yg terlibat dalam dunia final projek aku. mereka yg memegang dan bertanggungjawab ke atas 3.5 jam kredit utk semester ni. ahli kumpulan ni mmg padu-padu, golongan bangsawan dan sgt-sgt komited dlm kerja berpasukan. kenapa ? mari aku perkenalkan ahli kumpulan aku.

papadom dan mamadom. nama ketua aku ni papadom sebab muke dye cm afdlin shauki dan suke makan papodom. so mmg kena la name dye papadom. yg mamadom ni plak konon-kononnye mamadom la sbb miliki sifat keibuan yg not bad.

yang ni pulak bell dan encik psychopath. bell ni merupakan anak kepada pasangan 'dom' dan sgt suke tdo waktu kerja-kerja kumpulan. so dye sgt memiliki sifat seorang anak yg pemalas. encik psychopath pulak sgt suke bukak fesbuk time meeting. konon-kononnye update minit mesyuarat kt status kot. tuhan je taw ape dye bukak. ish ish ish.

kenapa team ni padu sbb tgk la bontot-bontot kitorang. pejal bhai. wa tanak sembang banyak lu dtg la sendiri poli gua , gua bagi lu free jentik bontot kwn2 gua. team ni golongan bangsawan sbb ape taw kawan , tiap kali meeting mesti dekat fastfood cm big apple , kfc , mcd dan akan datang aku tataw mana lg. jgn secret recipe suda kang bankrap aku. betapa demand budak2 bangsawan ni bajet ptptn masuk seminggu skali padahal 6 bulan skali dan takkan masuk lg sbb da final sem.

nak taw kenapa kitorang sgt komited ? kitorang kaki copypaste ataupun lebih dikenali secara kejam iaitu plagiat. segala report , idea, data-data semua berdasarkan internet dan terima kasih kepada senior-senior universiti-universiti yg dgn ikhlasnye mengupload dokumen korang utk rujukan-rujukan kami. kami sgt senang lenang dan terasa mcm komitmen tu ade utk mende ni.

diharap , anda semua jgn sikit pun terpengaruh dgn cerita-cerita ni dan berdosa utk diikuti dan dijadikan teladan. biar kami yang menanggung. tapi jika sesiapa yg bgtaw lecture kami pasal hal-hal plagiat ni , nahas. takot tak ? asal gelak weh ?

blah la korang.

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bebelan maut

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cak !

fuh. muncul gak aku dlm blog sendiri. tiap kali aku taip entry mesti aku draft kan sebab tak sampai hati nak publishkan. aku menjaga hati orang lain lg banyak kot dari jage hati sendiri. akibatnye , blog yang dijadikan tempat luahan hati terus mati. tapi takpe , terima kasih kepada yang merindui dan kerana korang aku kembali. kejap kejap , ade ke yang merindui wakakaka aku sape duh org nak rindu. ntah-ntah aku mati pun korang still wt blogwalking mcm biase kt shoutbox tanpa mengetahui tuan blog da ade kt dunia laen.

aku tataw nak tulis ape. hajat dihati nak tulis pasal worldcup tp pasukan faveret aku German da tewas , so boleh lupekan hajat. asek asek tgk bola sampai hampir kesemua game aku tgk live. dan game yg clash waktu ataupun yang berjalan serentak , aku catchup kat youtube or hightlight astro . mmg worldcup fever ni betol-betol terjadi la kat aku.

musim pembelajaran da mula dekat 2 minggu , dan keadaan semakin busy. waktu-waktu lapang pulak di isi dgn Final Year Project dan kelas MUET. da macam belajar ape tah tp aku syiok la sebab terisi sket masa tido petang sampai rutin jogging aku langsung tak berjalan. perut semakin gendut. poket semakin berisi dgn bantuan PTPTN. jadi aku da kembali ke keadaan asal dan agak stabil cume kadang-kadang sebelum tidur terase sunyi. kene kawen awal duh bia malam-malam yg membosankan menjadi malam pertama. dan biar semua malam aku jadikan malam pertama. best best.

so far tu je aku ade idea utk tulis. aku da x sekreatif dulu nak menulis utk bacaan umum. apatah lg bace blog korang. aku sgt tak layan blog ni sebab dunia semakin jadi tak privasi. now dekat facebook pun da macam celaka bia semua kemesraan berfacebook dgn kawan-kawan diperhatikan insan-insan yg tak perlu. dammit. cube lah jgn sebok-sebok tgk hubungan orang lain sedangkan hubungan sendiri pun suam-suam kuku. kalau ye pun nak tahu sgt pergi la tanye kat formspring. penat-penat buad utk soklan-soklan korang. tp soklan-soklan jahanam gak kua. bodoh punye orang.

aku ade teka-teki. jawab taw.

" dalam banyak banyak manusia , manusia ape yang kedua rugi selain tidak beriman ?"

maksud soklan ni ialah manusia paling rugi ialah manusia yg tak beriman kepada Allah s.w.t. dan yg kedua rugi tu lah yang aku nak jawapannye. tak tahu ? aku secara spontannye bagitaw jawapan. mereka yg kedua rugi ialah mereka yang tak mampu menerima teguran dan nasihat. tak terima takpe bhai , atlease mendengar. tak keluar duet pun mendengar. nak nilai nasihat tu , sendiri-sendiri memandangkan semua org zaman sekarang da matang-matang. lagi satu , mereka yg membataskan kehidupan dgn masa silam . alhamdulillah aku da tak pernah cuak langsung mencuba ape-ape. atlease aku tak sebodoh org yang berpendirian.

bye. jumpa lg lepas final worldcup. insyaallah aku nak buad review tentang worldcup. tp bukan org minat bace pun memandangkan pembaca aku terdiri dr kaum perempuan. aku sedikit pakar tentang bola sepak dari bidang kejuruteraan awam yang aku sendiri tengah ceburi. sepatotnye aku jadi jurulatih bolasepak , bukan bakal engineer. sebab aku menghabiskan mase sepanjang hari update pasal bola sepak melebihi aku update status facebook.

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